Photo of Jessica and Ben Ben and Jessica met at Ben's 21st birthday party in April 2004. Jessica was acquainted with Ben's roommate Jon, who had invited her to the party. Later that month, Jessica invited him to one of her board game parties and they made a date to see A Perfect Circle in concert in Atlanta in May. They officially began dating on May 1, 2004, after sharing their first kiss at a birthday party for some of Ben's friends.